I was watching Showbiz Tonight last night on CNN when the segment “Sexy or Sexist?” came on. Wow! Let’s just say the men’s magazines “Maxim” is staying true to form in offending the opposite sex. It has put out a shocking list and calling it the un-sexiest women alive. Yes and the five women who made the list are, “Sex and the City” star Sarah Jessica Parker; Madonna; Amy Winehouse; “Grey’s Anatomy” star Sandra Oh; and Britney Spears.
Co-host of the show Brooke Anderson invited investigative journalist Pat Lalama, clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Kuriansky and Steve Santagati, author of “The Manual,” to speak on the topic. As any good show goes both sides were presented, but I think it’s a great way to open up a dialogue of how women and men think about body image.
I was surprised to see Sarah Jessica Parker as the No. 1 un-sexiest woman on the list. The magazine wrote, “How the hell did this Barbaro- faced broad manage to be the least sexy woman in a group of very un-sexy women and still star on a show with `sex` in the title?”
Santagati agreed with the statement. However, Kuriansky said the whole point of “Sex and the City” is that it’s a show about real women.
“We don’t want them to look like models and be skinny,” she said. “They are real women.”
I agree with Kuriansky to a point about the show — especially since it’s one of my favorites and I have all the episodes on DVD —but, lets face it the actors are not representative of real women. I believe the characters’ personalities represent real women, but their bodies do not.
At first I was offended by the list, but then Santagati said the list doesn’t say the women aren’t beautiful — just not sexy. So is there a difference? I think there is most definitely a difference. I know I categorize the way men look into different classifications and so do other women. There is the general attractive category that I believe can be subdivided into cute, handsome, distinguished, sexy and HOT. For example, some women may find Brad Pitt sexy — not me. I think he’s cute, but he doesn’t have the sex appeal I look for in a man. Now on the other hand I find Jon Bon Jovi sexy. Why? The man can act and sing do I need to say more. There are men I know personally that have sex appeal — no I will not name them — and then there are others who’ve got great characteristics, but don’t quite meet the criteria of sexy.
The dictionary describes sex appeal as physical attractiveness or personal qualities that arouse (you) sexually. The thing to remember is that not everyone will always agree on who’s sexy. So let me know what you think about the un-sexiest list or who you find sexy.